Never discourage anyone
who continually makes progress,
no matter how slow.
Goal Setting. Some people are builders. It’s instinctive. Some not. It’s a bind. I was not gifted with a builder’s mind. I’ve learnt a thing or two in my efforts to be so.
Have you ever watched a bird build a nest?
They’re tireless in their efforts. Twig after twig, back and forth, flight after flight. They don’t appear to fuss much. No nest was built by a bird collecting the twigs all in bulk.
Every day. One twig at a time. There’s no distinction between work and play.
Chirping away, a bird forges a home. All of life IS. Alive. Every moment.
Some people understand the builders way. It’s their gift. They know how to start small and build big. They’ve the capacity to do so daily…
…with lots of tiny movements forward,
with tenacity and resilience,
with seemingly effortless strength.
They stay until the end.
A builder may not notice their patience. There’s no concerted effort to be so except on exceptionally messy days. It just is. Each day, an enjoyment in itself. Builders have other challenges. They have their own set of wings to grow.
What of those not born to be builders?
Some of us may have other gifts. We may have learnt bad habits along the way.
Perhaps life lessons could not be gained with a builder’s patient temperament or capability.
Perhaps we pack the twigs all in one go, thus we can not lift off the ground.
We may simply not start, overwhelmed with the sheer magnitude of our task.
There are a multitude of reasons we don’t know how to build.
If this is you, I share in the enormity of exasperation you may feel with yourself at times. Leaving you floored.
Spent. Scared to open any more doors.
Know this. Like undeveloped wings, your builder’s mind gains muscle with every effort, at every turn. The time shall come, you most definitely shall build.
You’ll gain all kinds of gifts, you would never have known if you were a born builder.
You are already building no matter what. Just not in a straight line.
It’s called practise. Practise. Practise.
It’s in the tiny steps.
One twig at a time.
“One small step equals a thousand miles” – Chinese proverb
Not all builders are born. Some are cultivated. Anything can be mastered with a patient mind. The gifts of which, shall influence every aspect of your being.
Choose joy in the mean time. Do not wait to reach your thousand miles.
I’m most certainly getting better at this choice myself. You may too if you give it your attention.
Make this week be a builders week.
By Jo Ntsebeza (2016)
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